Break -ups and Heart breaks are both a pain and a learning and a pleasure. But, to really understand why it so happens, one needs to understand why does a breakup/heartbreak happens. and More than that, one needs to understand why relationships happen.
Relationships happen because of desires, needs, wants and expectations, and reakups, when these aren't fulfilled. The questions is.... are these desires, wants, and needs, justified? In my opinion, yes they are and no they aren't. Yes, when they are needs, and No, when they are not needs.
Why am not good at handling relations? for two simple reasons and that's why my relationships break up everytime.
Reason:
1. I don't need them. They are my desires and wants and expectations which are not my needs, and hence, not necessary for my survival.
2. They are my needs, and i let this fact be known to the counterpart, who then starts taking it either for granted or else as a tool to abuse me, till it starts suffocating me.
Result? simple! breakup!
I am in a kind of very light relationship right now. wish I had posetd this post earlier having completed it. But, for whatever reasons i couldn't. But anyways, it doesn't matter anymore, now that it's being published.
Adding on 04.11.08.
Sometimes relationships also break due to lack of communication, which might happen for many reasons, in background. This is the most hurting type. God Bless those who suffer from this.
©anu (Exploring Myself)
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Release v/s Restriction
Release and restriction are not opposite in my opinion. Release comes only as an extension of restriction. Unless restricted, there'd be no piling up, and no need for release really. Restriction could be social, imposed, mental, psychological, self - inflicted or anything. There's no definite theory as to what a restriction or inhibition should be.
No volcanoes would erupt if there were no closures of the mouths. There would be no orgasms, if the sexual urge wasn't restricted till it reached that peak. There would be no channelizing of energy (any type, sexual, mental, psychological, spiritual), if it wasn't being controlled in the first place. Some people hate restrictions saying that it hampers growth. I don't deny that yes it does, however, they are unending restrictions that do so. Restrictions in a proper manner and when properly applied, do not hamper growth, rather they help it. And yes, I'm not saying that I'm essentially right :)
©anu (Exploring Myself)
No volcanoes would erupt if there were no closures of the mouths. There would be no orgasms, if the sexual urge wasn't restricted till it reached that peak. There would be no channelizing of energy (any type, sexual, mental, psychological, spiritual), if it wasn't being controlled in the first place. Some people hate restrictions saying that it hampers growth. I don't deny that yes it does, however, they are unending restrictions that do so. Restrictions in a proper manner and when properly applied, do not hamper growth, rather they help it. And yes, I'm not saying that I'm essentially right :)
©anu (Exploring Myself)
Fair v/s Foul
Fair v/s foul has been an eternal battle and an eternal conflict. Everywhere, in everything and every time. In all aspects of life, in all lifestyles, in all philosophies, and in all thought patterns.
I remember having read about the 3 modes of nature, the mode of goodness, mode of passion and the mode of ignorance. However, that was much later in my life. Earlier my opinion was that the world is just black and white. I realized much later that there were shades of Gray and shades of the whole VIBGYOR. But, somehow I could never correlate with colors.
It was much later when I realized that, White is the Mode of Goodness, and Black is the Mode of Ignorance. All other colors and shades exist in the realm of the Mode of passion. However, what I have always believed, and still believe is that Mode of passion is something that helps one maintain the balance between White and Black, the Foul and the fair.
............ Honestly.......... my thoughts on this subject always seem to get overwhelmed, where in i can't put them in an organized fashion at all. so, i need to end it up here. will add as Fair v/s Fol (2 ) and (3) and so on, as and when i keep getting those.........................
©anu (Exploring Myself)
I remember having read about the 3 modes of nature, the mode of goodness, mode of passion and the mode of ignorance. However, that was much later in my life. Earlier my opinion was that the world is just black and white. I realized much later that there were shades of Gray and shades of the whole VIBGYOR. But, somehow I could never correlate with colors.
It was much later when I realized that, White is the Mode of Goodness, and Black is the Mode of Ignorance. All other colors and shades exist in the realm of the Mode of passion. However, what I have always believed, and still believe is that Mode of passion is something that helps one maintain the balance between White and Black, the Foul and the fair.
............ Honestly.......... my thoughts on this subject always seem to get overwhelmed, where in i can't put them in an organized fashion at all. so, i need to end it up here. will add as Fair v/s Fol (2 ) and (3) and so on, as and when i keep getting those.........................
©anu (Exploring Myself)
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