Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Training : Structured Personality Enhancement Program

n my opinion, personality includes a few aspects like:
1. Physical Appearance.
2. Body Language.
3. Communication Skills and,
4. The Intellectual or psychological personality (along with the thought process).

Today lets talk a little about it and I shall try to contribute more thoughts regularly.

When we talk about the physical impression, please remember that though the first impression might not be the last one, it still is an important impression. So, look professional, hygienic, with ironed formals and a proper dress code. The hair style should be neat, combed properly.No one likes it when they can't make a proper eye contact, just because your hair are falling repeatedly over the eyes. The shoes should be polished, socks non- stinking. Girls and women should avoid heavy jewelery. Please carry your documents arranged systematically in a file folder.

I have often observed that a major problem many people feel is that they don't know what to do with their weaknesses. Here's something that I've found useful as a technique.

It is one of my posts in Personal Introduction threads also, and am posting here only for the sake of convenience.


As far as the negative (rather, not so positive ) is concerned, first of all you need to face this. Most of the times what we are doing is avoiding the negatives, and hence, we hardly understand whay and how they exist and function.

1. Understand why did your negative point come into existence,
2. Know how it functions or acts on your mind,
3. Realize how it affects you personally and professionally,
4. Determine the possible remedies and solutions.

In an interview, you can just make the last two points brief and present them to the interviewer.

For eg. Let's say someone's weakness is ego. Let's perform the four steps:

People are egoistic because:
either they are exceptionally good at one or more things,
or its a disguise to their inferiority complex.

Ego plays with one's mind, when one is in a situation where one has to either face people who are more intelligent or better at the relevant fields. At such times, ego brings one in defensive mode and prevents one from being rationally open and accepting to the other person.

Disadvantages:
Ego hampers one's listening skills to the other person.
It doesn't let one think rationally, specially when one's opinion differs from that of the other individual.
Hence, it could affect the decisions of a manager.....

Remedies:
Understand the cause of your problem and accept it. Remember, Acceptance is the first step to a solution. Time and again I've told my students and trainees that unless you accept there's a problem, you wouldn't be working to its correction.
Also, self-control is a positive trait that could help you to be in control of your feelings. Now here the interviewer can play a trick. He can say that self control would mean you're suppressing your natural tendencies. You need to explain to him/her that self- control and suppression are different and how they are different.

An answer to an interviewer about a weakness like ego could be something like:

"My weakness is that I am slightly egoistic. This happens to me at times when I overestimate myself, or when I hold an excessively high opinion of myself. However, I try to keep this tendency in check because I know that it could make my thought procedure biased. I keep this in control by being keenly observant of myself and remembering that though I am good enough or even very good at certain things, there are many more people who might be better than me, and that I can learn from others only when I'm humble."

This was what I had given to an interviewer in an interview. There could be many other answers. To each weakness, the answer would differ, and it depends on the way you analyse yourself.

The key point is to think both with sensitivity and sensibility. You don't have to be an idealist, nor can you afford to be casual and laid back about things.

Regards,

Anu

©2010 anu (Exploring Myself)

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